Welcome. I’m Jennifer Elliot, MFA, CCHt. I am the proprietress of Kink Coaching, where I help clients refine the arts of life and sex.
Improving our lives is profound work. So often, it takes more than just a desire to do something different. While that desire has to be there at the beginning, often we do things we don’t know we are doing that get in our own way.
So let’s say it’s been a stressful day, and you reach for the bag of chips to suddenly realize you’ve eaten all of them. Or you really want to start writing your novel, but find that there’s always something that is more important to do before you can start. Maybe you want to bring some kinky play into your relationship but when you get ready to bring it up, you lose the words.
Do you realize that your mind has been using these behaviors as a way to keep the status quo? There’s a method behind this frustrating behavior, even though it might not seem very logical compared to what you know about healthy eating habits, or that the novel won’t write itself, or that you really want to have a broader, deeper sexuality. Though our minds are in charge of our thoughts and common sense, emotions live there too. Sometimes change is scary!
If you’re here, then I will bet you’re ready to look into the patterns that have been holding you back from actualizing your desires. It’s a bit of detective work to find out what is pulling your strings. That’s what I help my clients do.
If it’s not as simple as just doing that thing you want to do, and sticking to it, then something deeper is going on. And without that awareness, how do you expect to change for good?